The
Pursuit of Wooing
Recently I read a post by a friend
about the semantic difference of “pursuing” and “wooing” namely in the context
of dating. Here is a link for that blog
article, if you want to read it. It got
me thinking!
I know it is kind of ridiculous, but
if you look at the definition of those two words and the differences,
culturally I believe we are into “pursuing” rather than “wooing”. It is sad to say that even in “Christian”
circles. “Christian” men and women are
much more interesting in the pleasure rather than the commitment of a
relationship or romance. I do believe
that I am the minority when I say that I am more interested in the commitment
with the pleasure than just the pleasure (the minority even in the “Christian
community”). We need to go back to
wooing a woman, being committed, marriage!
As believers in Christ we are able
to go against the cultural norm. All
human race is sinful, our sin is the problem.
But we, as believers, are sinners saved by grace! With that salvation comes a changed life,
attitude, character, and worldview. Do
not expect a sinful culture to accept us, but we cannot accept and bring in
their bad habits. I think most of the
evangelical Protestantism has accepted the cultural calling of “tolerance” when
Scripture teaches against that.
I’m sure that we have all heard
“love the sinner, hate the sin”. True,
true, true and I will not deny that. BUT
that doesn’t call us to accept the sin in the sinner. We must confront them on that. Believers are changed individuals, changed by
God’s grace! Let’s start acting like it!
Now off this rabbit trail, it is
relevant though. We as “Christians” have
begun to accept the pleasures without the commitment and that is unacceptable
in God’s eyes. (Underneath this whole
argument is a case for Lordship salvation, but that is another argument for
another day). This is a call to go
against the cultural norm and as men start taking responsibility. Let’s “act like men” as Paul states in I
Corinthians 16;13. We’ve lost that in
our culture. No responsibility, we blame
others, it is never our fault. No
responsibility, we’d rather sit on our lazy butts than help someone else!
To the woman I say, don’t be a
feminist. God created us differently for
the different roles that show our perfect companionship when fulfilled
properly. Let the man be a man, taking
responsibility, initiation, leadership, submit to him (see The ‘S’ Word). Help him be a good leader, teach him, he is to
be a student of yours! Men we are to be
students of the woman we love. We will
learn from her, what makes her click, what makes her feel most loved,
cherished, honored. When we do that, we
begin to woo, rather than pursue!
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